Back in 2005, Alan Deutschman wrote the article “Change or Die” for FastCompany. He recently completed a book based on the ideas from that article. The book is called “Change or Die: The Three Keys to Change at Work and in Life“.
I haven’t read the book yet, but from his latest blog entry, it looks like an interesting one to read. Time and time I have seen that we are creatures of habit. Despite all the books on change management and the “change is good slogans”, nothing much ever changes. Research from the book supports this: even though we all have the ability to change our behavior, we rarely ever do. Apparently the odds are even 9 to 1 that even if you really need to change, you won’t. Not good prospects for those businesses that are in trouble. And for those who still remember their new year’s resolutions: congratulations, because six weeks into the new year, 80 percent of people typically have already broken their New Years resolutions or can’t even remember them anymore.
The good news is that it is possible to change. Well, according to the book it is. There are 3 critical keys – relate, repeat, and reframe – that can help you make (positive) changes:
- Relate — form a new, emotional relationship with a person or community that inspires and sustains hope;
- Repeat — the new relationship helps you learn, practice, and master the new habits and skills that you’ll need;
- Reframe –the new relationship helps you learn new ways of thinking about your situation and your life